Officially looking

[katrinawoll]

No luck with the third IVF cycle. As a result we are considering starting the process of looking for an egg donor. J- believes our insurance will cover me but not the donor. now that we’re to the point of considering an egg donor, I realize at one point it seemed quite a drastic step, Now it does not, probably because all we’ve through to this point. Also, I think it had something to do with bringing a third-party into the mix. still I find myself thinking what the heck are we doing?! And it’s so much money!
Nancy

[oohemaa]

I am 35 years. First cycle two cycle in South Africa with no result, third IVF in Germany. Hyperstimulated terribly and had to receive tranfusions, 22 eggs retrieved, 11 fertilised, 3 (thats the law in Germany) transferred in May, 8 frozen. 12 day after transfer started bleeding and my period came. Will probably have the next tranfer with my next cycle. I dont know what I did wrong but until I run out of frozen embryos ( and money) will keep trying.

[katrinawoll]

It's me Katrinawoll, checking in.
We have decided to go ahead with the egg donor. I'm surprised to see how anonymous the process is. We are viewing potential donors by profile only. Each profile is identified by a number. It makes it feel kind of cold. But then J said how would I feel actually sitting down and talking to the person we were considering. Probably would be easy to be way too picky. Also the distance makes it impossible to make any future contact, which I really like.
Still it feels very odd to be looking over donor traits as if we were assembling a perfect child. Fact is, all children are perfect.
More when I have time.

[canby]

To oohemaa,
Ever think about adoption?
I am in the same situation as you, and prevously I would never consider adoption. But to be honest, I am reconsidering it seriously.

[mollylolly]

Blood is thicker than water, however do not underestimate the ability of the human heart to build connections that are every bit as strong as blood.
What I'm saying is that adoption can be an even stronger bond because it is a relationship that is chosen. "You wanted me," is what the heart understeands. Very powerful.
By way of example, look at the powerful connections people have to country. Natives in a country are loyal by birth, but often an immigrant can appreciate a country even more because they appreciate a country so much.