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Single Woman & IVF Single woman are utilizing fertility options, including IVF. If you are a single woman who has undergone an IVF procedure, please consider sharing your experience with other single woman who may be considering the IVF option.

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Old 01-16-2008, 10:43 AM
 
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Hi everyone

I have a 9-month old daughter and used birthtalks alot during my pregnancy and found it really helpful. But now I need help on another issue that doesn't specifically relate to me but that I am deeply involved in.

My dear darling sister wants to have a baby and is looking into IVF as a single woman with an anonymous donor.

So far she has been confronted by long waiting lists and an unlikely chance of ever having sperm available for her to use. Some clinics won't even see her because she's a single woman (against their policy due to religious restrictions at some faith-aligned hospitals).

Does anyone have any experience or advice to give on getting the process moving forward? We live in Perth. It all just seems very discouraging at the moment.

Thank you. As a new mum myself I really want to be able to help my sister experience the joys of motherhood for herself. And she would be a great mum!
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Old 03-12-2008, 01:33 PM
 
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Hi, We have, here in France a lot of TV broadcast related to the problem your sister in encountering( right ?) and the problem she is facing is not only the religious ethic is also the legal situation the child will have when that child reaches his or her majority. and the right for anybody to search for the identity of is biological parent. I do no the reason she wants to do it "alone" but her child will be told and taugh that to be born, a mother and a father are necessary ! and here start the psychological problem that the child will have to face or live with (good or bad, we all have our reason ) I was, once sincle MOM and never forbid the father to see his son, because at a point it is very very important for the child to have marks to know where he or her goes. after watching tons of those tv broadcast or reading on the net, those children can have a normal life if they are prepared, but noone can tell how long, and how do we know really if they are "fine" their head might say "yeah, I 'm fine, life is great" but their heart says the contrary...here in Europe, it is only possible in Belgium or Netherland... because there, the gay and lesbian community is more "free" than anywhere else in europe, then they always find a solution.
I don't know if that answer a little bit to your question. but I've tried.
BTW : is Perth in Australia ?
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Old 03-19-2008, 08:42 AM
 
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Default Times are changing

I agree with your basic points. However times DO change.
20 years ago every building you went into was filled with cigarette smoke.
Smoking was permitted everywhere including workplaces, college classrooms and on public transportation.
Same with integration (in the U.S.)
Nowadays much has changed, and the world is much better for it.

I agree we have a culture today that places a certain stigma on children of singler parents. But lets' face it, with divorce as common as it is, there are a great many kids out there who only have one parent.
I'm not sure where I stand on this issue, but I think the social aspects of it are changing now and will continue to change.
P.S. I believe Perth is in Australia.
Dolor
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Old 07-11-2008, 08:25 AM
 
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I agree with most of Dolor's comments. However just because times change, doesn't mean they have changed for the better, or that current practices are the best for the parties involved. It seems what you saying is there are a great many single parents these days, and that makes it okay. Well, I don't think that is logical. I don't oppose single parenthood, but I do think it is a lesser option. Also, I think the person that it probably matters most to, the child, is not part of the discussion.
However, I don't think society has the right to make it illegal.
Thank for the opportunity to express my thoughts.
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Old 08-04-2008, 03:27 PM
 
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I'm so glad I stopped here and read what gradysaunt said. Actually until now I had the opposite opinion (before reading it). but her point is very good. How does the child figure in this. Does the child matter? WE are focusing on the needs of the parents (or parent). what about the child.
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Old 02-04-2009, 07:08 AM
 
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this is a very interesting question which i had not thought about before. I guess at first I thought this should be okay, but now that I am thinking about it, I'm not sure. Is it okay for a single man? or same sex couples. Or should there be a means test to make sure the woman can support the child, and what about all the children who are already born and have no homes. Have I turned into a prude? Wow, I think I have.
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Old 02-13-2009, 08:18 AM
 
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I can't resist adding a followup to my earlier post, especially in light of the ocutuplets story. At first this seemed like a story about a miracle. Now it is becoming considerably less miraculous and pretty sad. I think that's what I was getting at in my last post. There are many many single individuals who may now have a hard time trying to become a single parent because of this.
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Old 02-20-2009, 08:22 AM
 
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Yes, I can't believe how negative this story has become. I heard a fertility doctor quoted saying that she thought the situation was mishandled and that a "quality" infertility center would never allow such a multiple birth. The story has become about the process and the practice of infertility rather than the babies.
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Old 02-24-2009, 08:32 AM
 
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The story keeps getting coverage and the longer it does, the worse it seems to get. I was at my clinic the other day and I heard it referenced in several waiting room conversations. Still I have some symphathy for the mother, in the sense that I think she has some serious issues. Unfortunately as seems to the case in the world today, her little bit of neurosis will now possibly begat more as her children strive to have a life.
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Old 03-09-2009, 08:43 AM
 
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Dear All,
Now the media "buzz" has moved on to "designer babies." Anyone heard about this yet? Seems there's a fertility clinic somewhere that is offering genetic screening for eye color and hair. Seems to me this started with the ocutuplets story and now the media is just lookign for everything that is odd or fringe in infertility.
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